Keep the Holidays Merry with These Shared Custody Tips
Posted on November 11th, 2020
As the holiday season draws near, many families may be planning for smaller, more intimate gatherings as a result of COVID-19 outbreaks. However, whether the entire family is getting together or just those in the immediate circle, for divorced parents, the holiday season may seem tense. But it doesn’t have to be. Keep the holidays merry with these shared custody tips by Kalinoski Law Offices P.C.
Tip 1: Make a Schedule
When you share both physical and legal custody of your child or children with your ex, the need for an official schedule is important at all times of the year, but especially the holidays. Depending on your family, you may have an easy time determining where your child spends the major holidays. For example, maybe you have your child on Thanksgiving Day and Christmas Eve whereas your ex has them on Christmas Day because this is the most logical breakdown of the vacation.
But if the holiday season is not so easy to navigate due to work schedules and other obligations, you will need to be mindful of these issues and be willing to compromise and shift on your plans.
The bottom line is this–Whatever you decide works best for you both, stick with it.
Tip 2: Set Boundaries
Life happens, and sometimes plans will need to change. But when a once in a while change of plans turns into every major holiday, know that it may be time to set boundaries–especially if you notice it negatively impacting your child(ren).
You and your ex should want the same thing–for your child to have a wonderful and memorable holiday experience. If they don’t, it may be time to seek legal intervention.
Tip 3: Cooperate, Don’t Compete
You may think the holidays are the perfect time to show your ex how much happier your child is with you, but not only is it not fair to your children, it’s not fair to your ex either. Use holiday time together to cooperate, not compete with each other. Your child will be happier and your shared custody schedule will work much better if you can stick out the holidays for your children.
Tip 4: Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help
Whether it is a child custody schedule that simply does not work anymore or an ex who has a blatant disregard for your child’s needs, they shouldn’t turn your holidays into misery.
Contact the legal professionals of Kalinoski Law Offices P.C. to see what our compassionate staff can do for you. We will review your current custody agreement and work with you to create a logical plan for your family. Schedule a free consultation today, and we’ll help make sense of it all.
Category: Child Custody/Support, Family Law